The disciple must be entirely innocent of anger, because anger is an ofence against both God and his neighbor. Every idle word which we thinkso little of betrays our lack of respect for our neighbor, and shows that we place ourselves on a pinnacle above him and value our own lives higher than his. The angry word is a blow struck at our brother, a stab at his heart: it seeks to hit, to hurt and to destroy. A deliberate insult is even worse, for we are then openly disgracing our brother in the eyes of the world, and causing other to despise him.
(Bonhoeffer, The Cost of Discipleship, 127-128)
I truely believe that this goes toward any gesture or saying that even hints at hate. Some say that it is all in what you truely mean, but I say that what is truely existent in the hearts of men are fully evident in what we say and do. The statement that our intentions related to our words and gestures is not biblical. It is biblical to say that our words and gestures and actions are window to what the heart is feeling. The statements mention above show the desire to create our own version of christianity, disregarding the cost of carrying our cross that was commanded of us. You followers of The Way, use caution in your steps, for beside our narrow path is a steep embankment that threatens to swallow us whole. Use loving kindness in your lives. Do not seek what your heart feels is ok, for even our own hearts are treacherous. Instead, seek what God's will is in your life. Love for all, and all for love.